P Primary
Family WhatsApp group. No stickers during emergencies. That’s an order.
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The family plan
Most emergencies are lost in the first ten minutes, by people arguing about who’s driving. Decide everything here now, while everyone is calm and fed.
Lead
Makes the call to stay or go. One voice, no committee.
Medic
Owns the first-aid kit, the medicine list and everyone’s prescriptions.
Comms
Charges everything, runs the family group, checks on the grandparents.
Quartermaster
Go-bags, stock rotation, and the sacred knowledge of where the torch is.
Kids get a job too: carry their own bag and their own torch. Children with a job panic less, and so do their parents.
The 72-hour rule
Help in Malaysia does come: Bomba, APM, the army, the neighbourhood surau with a giant pot of bubur. But plan to be on your own for the first 72 hours, and to sit tight at home for two weeks without a shop run. Everything in this handbook is sized to that.
How we talk when the network doesn’t
A four-layer plan the military calls PACE, adapted for a family whose primary threat model is the group chat.
A Alternate
Plain SMS and voice calls. They often get through when data won’t.
C Contingency
A note taped inside the front door: where we went, when, and who is with whom.
E Emergency
No contact for 24 hours? Everyone makes their way to rally point R2 at 08:00 or 18:00. No debate.